Friday, May 25, 2012

Damned if I do ........

and damned if I don't.

Sometimes being a parent can be easy.
Child "Can I go play with knives?"
Parent "No".

Easy. No brainer. Kids life versus stupidity.

Sometimes can be tricky.
Child "Mum, can I go play at X's?"
Parent "Okay, but......."

And you lay out the rules. You want to meet the family. You're going to take them. Pick them up. Protect them.

Sometimes can be tough.
Child "Mum, can I go camping with my friends tonight?"
Parent "Okay, but ...."

And again you lay down the rules. He's growing up, but he's still your baby.

Sometimes can be scarey.
Child "Going out for the night - will make my own way home, don't wait up."
Parent "Stay safe."

And of course you wait up, even if you pretend to be asleep when they get home. They're irreplacable. Precious. Nearly an adult, but still your baby.

But sometimes can be impossible. Sometimes choices to make have no 'right' choice. Truly damned if you do, damned if you don't. Not trivial:

Child "Mum, can I go to X's party."
Parent "No."
Child "You're the worst parent in the world. I hate you."

But you know they don't - well, maybe at that minute - but you're doing it because it's the right thing to do.

But what do you do when there is no right or wrong? Just a choice that means possibly damaging that relationship forever. Deep down you know you can't win. Deep down you know your decision will hurt someone profoundly.

Sometimes life just sucks.


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